“I was never married, and CA is not common law – a 14yr relationhip, I have 3 children with this man who has a verbally abusive history with all in the family. We seperated now for 10 mos…What can I do to control his harrasing phone calls and emails? A restraining order? and how may I file for child support?”

If a person’s behavior rises to the level of “harassment” you can file for a civil harassment restraining order. I am not sure whether his behavior rises to that level, as you have given no specifics.

In the alternative, you may want to file a paternity action. In that action you can file a motion for child support, custody, and for the restraining order. In the alternative, you could simply file for a civil harassment restraining order, and commence an action through the local child support collection agency for the child support.