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“My 13 year old son does not want to go see his dad on a court-ordered visit. I have tried everything I can but he
still does not want to go. Dad says he (the son ) has no say so on anything until he is 18. Do I have to make him go?”It is a very common misbelief that at the age of 12 or 13 a child can choose whether or not to go on visitation or, indeed, with which parent they would like to live. However it is just that – a misbelief.
Question: So yes, the father is right that legally the son has no say.
If your son refuses to go with his father, than you should arrange for father and son to take part in counselling together during the alotted visitation time, so that they can work out any issues. After all, he will be his father for the rest of his life, whether he likes it or not.