“I have been divorced for over five years and yet it seems we go back to court over child support or not paying child support, and I have filed contempt charges on my ex more than four times. Once again he isn’t paying. He is now doing trucking school, and getting paid (and from what I heard some good money) and yet he is going on two weeks and no checks. He has told his daughter that there is no way to catch him as he is in a different state. When we go to court they never do anything to him but tell him to start paying it. I get tired of going to court to see this man who was abusive to me. He even quit carrying insurance so that my kids’ stepdad has to. I have got sued over a bill I paid but he didn’t, and now they are still after me and yet I have papers showing where I paid my half of book fees and my kids need glasses and he is suppose to pay half and yet wont do anything for these kids. He doesn’t play a roll as dad but a buddy and yet what can be done with him being on the road with this trucking school to get my money. Can’t he send money to the court house to have sent my way?”

Contact the office of child support enforcement at the district attorney’s office in your town. They can work with the district attorney in the state in which your ex lives, and have his wages garnished so that the money is taken from his pay before he ever gets it, and sent directly to you. If he is being paid off the books, the district attorney in that state can also involve his employer.