August 2009


My Ex Won’t Let me See or Speak to my Child, What Should I do?

Summary

My ex refuses to let me see our son, she also refuses to let me talk to our son.I pay child support through deductions from my weekly paycheck. I am in arrears, but I do have the right to talk to my son and see him. Can I sue for pain and suffering damages?

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“My ex refuses to let me see our son, she also refuses to let me talk to our son. I have not been able to see him for well over two years at this point. I pay child support through deductions from my weekly paycheck.

I am in arrears, but I do have the right to talk to my son and see him.

Can I sue for pain and suffering damages? This is causing a massive strain on me personally. This is the second time now that I have been refused my rights as a parent to see my child.”

You are absolutely right that your being in arrears on child support should have no bearing on whether you can see your child. Indeed, if you have a court order for timeshare with your son, if your ex refuses you access, you have a strong case to bring to the Court. In many states, this is in fact considered parental kidnapping.

You do not need to sue for pain and suffering, even if you could. You simply need to go back to the Court which issued your order for timeshare (visitation) and file an Order to Show Cause (OSC) letting the Court know that she is interfering with your visitation.

If you don’t already have such an order, then you need to get one, and pronto.

The City Caused Damage to my Property. What Should I do?

Summary

The city decided to clean out a old ditch and used my property for access, telling me there was an easement. All of the privacy trees and shrubs were removed and some property was destroyed in the process. My deed shows that there is not an easement on my property. What can I do about the damage which was caused?

Dear Esq. is not intended as direct personal legal advice. For direct personal legal advice regarding your own state and situation you should consult a local attorney. → You should not and may not rely on anything on this website as legal advice.

“The city has decided to clean out a old ditch that has not been used in 30 years. My property line includes the ditch in which they are cleaning. The city then came into my property for about 27 feet and cleaned out all the trees and shrubs. A total of about 35 in all. I asked the city employees about the cleaning on my property and they told me they could because of an easement. I went to the court records and there is no easement on the deed. All the other property lines were not damaged. The city only went through mine by mistake. What should my next move be? I have been told the city needs to reimburse me for the property destroyed. We used the trees and shrubs to divide our yard form the grocery stores and other shops so no one would use my property as a shortcut to the stores. This is an older housing area and not a new development area. I like the privacy we had before the city removed it. Now the lights are bright in our back yard. Thank you.”

First, I would talk to someone at the city about whether they in fact have an easement across your property. They might, even if it isn’t mentioned on your deed, and if they do, then what they did may be within their rights as easement holders. It’s also possible that they have an unrecorded easement, created by virtue of use. This sort of easement is referred to as “prescriptive.”Unfortunately, the rules for prescriptive easements vary from state to state, and even within a state can be very different for a public entity(like a city), so it’s hard to say whether that would apply to your situation. However, if the city claims that they have one, you shouldn’t be surprised. If they don’t have an easement, talking to the city might result in an offer of some sort of compensation. Failing that, you may have to sue. You should also act promptly. In many places, if you can sue the city at all, there are extremely short deadlines to do so.